the fish in the sea...

my friend - Red - told me he broke up with his lover over a month now, but still, he can't find the courage to move on.. he says, he's entertaining other "butterflies" that come his way, but he can't let go of the past.. i'd go by his side and tell him...

sshhh.. hindi lang sya ang isda sa dagat.. lumangoy ka pa, baka makakita ka ng balyena, o di ba, mas masaya yun??

i can totally relate to what red is feeling.. sometimes, you think, the rivers will rise because u've been crying a lot.. sometimes, you stop and think, this is not what life is meant to be... in my case, i learned that if God has closed a door, He will open another window. yes, life is like that.. if you think you've got nowhere else to go, just look above and you will know that up above, there's still a place that you can run to..

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

to you, my amiga, RED...you're a very special goldfish in a tank.. the best thing to find another goldfish is to go out and explore the sea.. Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

here are some nice words i got from a friend when i had the same situation as yours.. before...

Isn't it hard to say goodbye to somebody whom you have been with through tough times and it has been proven that he loves you and would love you forever and you just have to put an end to the relationship for you have outgrown the person?

Wouldn't it be more difficult and heart-wrenching to be the one to ask for its end? Sometimes even if you do your very best in a relationship, when it is not meant to be, it will never flourish.

Like a sandcastle symbolizing your love for each other, it may stand still for a while and be widely spread with beautiful ornaments, be able to stand tough winds and kicks but if there is really something wrong or lacking in the foundation or something needed was taken for granted at the start, it will take effect at one point and even if you keep on smoothening up the edgy parts, it may be too difficult to mend it.

You may continuously mend it but you might end up doing that forever, for a relationship is like a sandcastle, once it is falling into pieces, it is either you think of ways in order to save it or accept the fact that you should just let it fall and start from scratch, while having the decision to make, on whether you will build a sandcastle with the same person or not.

True love exists even in separations. Sometimes, we have to part ways with somebody not to let him or her know what he or she will be missing when you are gone but to let him or her realize what he is missing in his life, the gifts he or she has in him that he/she hasn't touched and dwelled upon.

In the ocean of love that runs deep and never-ending, we should know up to what extent should we swim deep or shallow, and in a relationship, one should be stronger than the other for if not, both will drown in the ocean of love, tides made out of trials and doors to maturity. Though I believe that to say goodbye to somebody who has hurt you physically, and emotionally is so much easier than saying goodbye to somebody who you really love and loves you in the simple way he or she knows.

Knowing that you have done the right things along the way and waited patiently for the right time to be with your loved-one, and still things didn't work out, it makes it more scary to trust your emotions and love again. For the next one will always be somewhat like a bargain and one couldn't help but compare it to the latter one. Nevertheless, our faith and fate has its own way of talking to us and pointing us the right path. Love not with your heart alone but also with your mind.